Wow, Gerri was looking great in the media recently as she posed in her swimsuit for Hello Magazine.
As well as sharing her natural insecurities about wearing a bikini for the press for the first time after a 7 year cover up, she also spoke about the warring inner voices which would rise up and erode her confidence: "that voice is always there waiting to tell me, "You are not good enough, do better," but I'm more conscious of it. 'It used to be the loudest voice in my head but now I just tell it, "Shut up..."
If we are honest, there are times where the internal voice and inner dialogue seems to take hold. Often, it creeps up at the most inappropriate times, when you are feeling most vulnerable, and seems to take control.
People often describe it as being another 'part' of themselves or as though there are 2 opposing forces, one which supports you (usually the quieter and weaker of the 2), and the other that is determined to tell you just how much of a failure you are and erode your self confidence or make you doubt your decisons.
So what can you do to banish it??
From a Time Line Therapy point of view, a common intervention is to do a Parts Integration. We would determine exactly why the voice is attempting to sabotage you, and integrate it with the positive, supportive, encouraging voice.
Coaching Tips
- Identify where the voice is located (for those of you already practicing NLP do a Submodalities elicitation) and identify all of the key characteristics.
- Identify the characteristics of the supportive or encouraging voice.
- Start changing (or mapping across) the characteristics so that the supportive voice becomes the most dominant.
Also do some work to identify any limiting beliefs that fuel the negative voice. Once you resolve those, the power behind the voice is easily diminished. Things to look out for a beliefs such as:
- I'm not good enough
- I can't do it
- I'm not worthy
- People like me will never be able to do that
Shelving the inner voice. Thanking it for it's opinion, and exploring it's purpose can also help you regain control.
Marilyn Devonish, TraceFormational Mind Coach, Hypnotherapist & Certified Trainer of Time Line Therapy
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